This Love thing…

Hello Friends, 

I am so sorry for my very long absence… 

Been feeling like talking about love for a few days now.

This is an old post- I decided to bring it back again…

I was thinking about life and love and the joys, pains and responsibilities it brings. This time around I am not going to conclude on the topic, May I ask your permission to share the thoughts and questions I have been asking myself the past few days…? Thank you!

Have you ever been in Love? What was it like?

Those are the questions I have been discussing my friends in the past two days. I have been, so I can experientially say it is a great …thing.

Have you been with a person and over time as friends, you begin to think you cannot spend the rest of your life without the person… Is that love? or hope? or fantasy?

A young lady who had her relationship broken a week to the wedding said this

Loving someone is a difficult thing, it is impossible to love someone and keep your pride. Only the people we love can break our hearts and only God can make it better again…”

Is it possible for two people to really and genuinely love each other and not be able to end up together?

Is Love that first wild almost uncontrollable feeling that makes you want to be with the other person forever…?

Is it that decision to stand by the person come what may, in the face of trials and all imaginable opposition? …

or is it giving up on your power of choice and listening to the voice that says “my son, my son, behold your wife”

Why does your heart thud when you are with that person you like? why does it hurt so much when the person wrongs you?

Why does it all change when you get married?

 So what exactly does it mean when I say “I love you”? (when you are dating and when married)

I always used to say Love is not a feeling… its a decision but somewhere deep down i think I want too be  able to ‘feel’ something for the person I ‘decide’ to spend the rest of my life with…

I have heard different definitions of Love and its sad when u hear of the best love stories having messy endings. I usually cant help asking ‘where did the love go to’

People have had different experiences and I have learnt a lot from them but the questions in my heart haven’t abated so I am asking you my dear friends…

what on earth is this thing called love?

In my Life… what for?

I was thinking of a friend recently, how we met, her impact on my life and so on- and I was trying to determine the exact purpose of our friendship…  was still thinking about it this morning when  I remembered this piece I stumbled on a while ago and it answered my question…( well for the most part)

A lot of people  ask this in different ways- I hope this piece blesses you as much as it blessed me…

      People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.  When you know which one it is,    you will know what to do for that person.       When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.  They may seem like a godsend and they are.  They are there for the reason you need them to be.  Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die.  Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.  What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.      Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.  They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done.  They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a Season.

  LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.  Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.  It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.