I was thinking of a friend recently, how we met, her impact on my life and so on- and I was trying to determine the exact purpose of our friendship… was still thinking about it this morning when I remembered this piece I stumbled on a while ago and it answered my question…( well for the most part)
A lot of people ask this in different ways- I hope this piece blesses you as much as it blessed me…
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on. Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a Season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Heartbeat 
This piece is one of life’s most difficult practical lessons……letting go of relationships.Humans are naturally clingy, ‘cos of a feeling of insuficiency. God wants us to find that sufficiency in Him and cling to Him. He gets jealous when we place humans in His position in our mind….we leave him with no choice than to place a demand on such relationship.
its true!
You come across different people for different purposes. You come across those that shows you that you can be loved, that you are appreciated, to build your interpersonal relationship, help in your spiritual development and so many others.
Above all, what matter most is what can one bring out of the relationships.
Brilliant.
While it could be true that we are usually reluctant of letting go of these relationships; ’tis also possible that we put these relationships far behind us (‘cos of the way it ended) and wished they never existed.
However, ’tis important we strive to consciously see & appreciate how our different relationships were to meet a need or teach us something and to be glad that they did exist.
…Nice one
I guess the time and season for us to met has not come yet… looking forward to your addtions in my life 🙂 and like wise.
later for now.
Umm… really something to reflect on. The leaving part is hard to swallow but a reality of life. Remember those I stood in the gap for regularly while in school. Never seemed that I’d be apart from them. Now we are barely intouch. There are many also that I drew inspiration from but now they seemed to have left me high and dry. But thru it all I have grown to be stronger and more dependent on my faith in God
This piece did bless me…bcuz it’s the ‘theme song’ of a chapter in my life right now. When the season-shift happens, and u didn’t expect it or see it coming…Wow…that’s the only word I can come up with right now =). But every shift and change is an opportunity to see God as source, as faithful, as unchanging….as God!
It’s true that we find it difficult to let go of relationships. It isn’t always easy, but fews months/years down the line we find the decision to have been worth it.
Letting go becomes easier when we realise our worth and the fact that those we really need in the next phase of life are those who are still in our lives…………the ones we have to let go aint needed in our lives.
Human relationships are indeed strategic and significant in our lives. They shape the direction of your life and ultimate destiny. Like I also say to myself that in choosing to marry a man, you also choose his destiny…….
My point, be vigilant and purposeful about your relationships….it makes all the difference in the quality of my life.